12/12/18 E67 Mind-Hacking - Real Intent vs Perception

Eric is always talking about biohacking your health, but how about a little bit of mind-hacking today? The guys probe the deep and dark recesses of the mind as they discuss our self-made perceptions and how they may (or may not) line up with reality. AND what impact that can have on our health and well-being.

How we create our own realities.

How most of the time in our own heads is disconnected from the real world.

Of studs, mares, and broken legs...

How do we know if we are telling ourselves stories?

The two words that have changed Eric's life.

The relationship between keto macro tracking and intentions tracking.

The common pitfalls of "good intentions".

And, how you can get rid of 80% of the conflicts in your life.

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Chad: 00:00 Life is the ultimate teacher, right? Life will. Life has its way of teaching you everything you need to know. If you're willing to wake up, open up your eyes and be honest with yourself and willing to change. It's when we're unwilling to change and unwilling to be honest with ourselves that life doesn't really teach us anything. It just kind of knocks us around. Say a journey begins in a single step or in my case, one less piece of bread. My name is Chad and I'm a seeker. I have sought out an expert in the field of nutrition and fitness who I thought would help me feel better. They call him the biohacker, but I call him Eric I hope you'll join me in a path that leads you and I to optimal fitness, the body and the mind as we live our life and ketosis. This is the life and Ketosis podcast, a biohackers guide to optimal body performance.

Chad: 01:07 Hello everyone. My name is Chad and this is my quest to achieving the healthy state of being that with man can get me there, my mentor and cohost, he's a science to my regular guy. The extreme testing to I'll take your word for it. The biohacker himself. Mr Eric Bischof. Somewhere along this journey of ours I realized that feeling better is really one part physical and another part mental and both are needed to achieve the optimal state of being what I call , keto happiness or ketosis. And today we're talking about reality, reality versus intent. So as, as a regular list, there's no eric, we, as of recent, we've been taking on some, uh, not just a diet and exercise topics. We've been taking on some mental state topics and kind of doing a little back and forth. So, um, so that we can improve both ourselves physically and, and, and our physical health, but also a little bit of our mental health and our mental happiness. And so today, um, as this is something pretty foundational that I go over with my coaching clients right from the start. This is one of the very first conversations that we have because this conversation sets the stage for the rest of the work that we're going to do on themselves and on their state of mind. So I'm super excited to have this conversation with you today. Before we jump in, Eric, how are you? I'm doing good. Doing good. All good. How about you? Great. You were just mentioning to me before we hit record that it's a giving maybe just a little bit too cold to be, to be running outside in the morning.

Eric: 02:50 I used to and maybe I'm getting old, but I used, you know, degrees I would go out and run. I mean, I know, but uh, the other morning, yesterday it was 13 and I said, no, I'm gonna. Go run the treadmill instead.

Chad: 03:06 Did you say maybe I'm getting old?

Eric: 03:09 Oh, that's true. But it's the cold affects me a little more now for some reason. So I'm just, I used to love running in cold weather. I mean, in Ohio I owe six degrees, whatever I, I ran. My lungs were fine. Everything was good. I mean, I could actually run bare legged, you know, just, it was like 16, 18 degrees because my legs heat up. I really heat up a lot. It's not like I'm tough. It's just, I really, my body heats up when I, when I work out, so that's probably why I can do, do the cold temperature, but not now. No, I don't. I'm opt in for the treadmill, which I'm not a treadmill fan and training, but I do intervals on the treadmill. So anyway, it's the cold weather is here. So,

Chad: 03:58 so you've, you've had a chance to review the show notes for today and um, we're going to talk a lot about how we create our own realities and I want to get to, as we begin, I want to just kind of get your first reaction of when I say that we all create our own realities. And what does that do to you? What, what kind of thoughts and feelings come up for you? When I say that

Eric: 04:24 I'm always safer creating my own reality. So living in Eric's reality, I've been told that by other people to like my wife maybe. Yes, I love to live in your reality, so I'm like, ah, you know, I think it's one of the hardest things and I love nutrition. I love, you know, physical training. I love coaching, I love doing that type of passion for health and diseases and everything, but you know, the brain is one of the heart and mean when you get to the brain and you get to this kind of stuff, dealing with the mind, it's just, you know, what happens when you, when you get into it, you have to adapt it to yourself. You have to start learning more about who you are and your reality if it's real or if it's something that you just live because it keeps you going day to day. But it's actually not. Not Reality. So glad. I'm really excited about these subjects because it's things that I need help. I always, you know, there's things that I, I have to improve on always. And, and I'm sure a lot of us, you know, we can get, we can take care of the physical stuff, you know that and the nutrition and stuff. But sometimes when it comes to the mind, it's a lot of work.

Chad: 05:46 Yeah. You mentioned something that I think is interesting and I get this response a lot when I bring up this topic, and this is, you know, I talked about, I said this is one of the most foundational conversations I have my clients from the beginning. I'll also say this, it's probably the one that I get the most pushback on because we don't want to admit that most of our life inside of our head is spent disconnected from reality, disconnected from truth and, and in this kind of state of our own perception. Right? And so I, I'm going to ask you and everybody else is listening to just open up their minds for a minute. Get rid of all the baggage that says you know, what's going on. Um, your, you got a handle on everything. Uh, you know exactly how you behave and how other others behave. Because to be able to really dive into this conversation, we have to have a bit of humility and we have to be able to get real honest with ourselves. And those are two very difficult things for us to do as humans, just because of how we've evolved evolutionarily, and these are, you know, we don't really need that protection anymore because once back in the hunter gatherer days, you know, some of that might be perceived as weakness and we wouldn't get food or we wouldn't get a mates or you know, all of that kind of stuff. And now we live in a time where that's no longer true. So it takes some practice to kind of let, let go of that protection and really dive into being a little bit more humble and a little bit more honest with ourselves and, and willing to admit that we might not be living in the reality that others around us are. So that's kind of my opening statement for this. Um, but, uh, I wanted to. Oh, you said one thing that you said that was interesting to me is that you said it's safer in my own reality. And I would say it's perceived safety. And in reality, when we're, when we're in our own perception of reality, whether it's true, whether it's close to reality or not, when we're, when we're, when we're in our own perception of reality, that's when we experienced a lot of conflict both internally and externally. And I'm going to, I'm going to dive into that a little bit later, but just keep that in mind that this, the whole reason we're having this conversation is to work towards a place where we can reduce the amount of conflict I suffering in our lives and, and have a lot more connection with other people, um, because when we are in our own perception of reality, and I'm sure as we go along, we talk more about this. It'll start to become very clear to you and everybody else that, hey, when I'm in my own reality, I'm not connecting with others. That's for sure. That's for sure. Right? And a lot of times we can't pinpoint why we're not connecting with people. And we'll talk about those conversations we have with ourselves. These conversations often sound like, oh man, I did everything right, but these guys still aren't getting it, or you know, whatever, whatever that is, and we can relate to those and that's when it comes up. And so we'll start to be able to recognize those moments when we're just in our own la La land and it's, and it's reducing our likelihood of connecting with others. So, but before we get started, I'm going to, I need to lay some groundwork here. Is that okay? On a very, uh, I'm on a very simple principle of this, you know, creating our own perceptions are perceptions of reality.

Chad: 09:40 So I'm going to tell a quick story. Um, I don't remember where I originally heard this story. Uh, I think it has some ancient origins, but, uh, anyway, I'll just tell it and it's, I love it because it illustrates this perfectly. Um, so there's a man and he is a horse breeder. He owns horses. That's how he makes his living right. And uh, his one day he goes out to the pen and one of the fence runs has been broken and his stud is gone right? So meaning he can't reproduce this breed of horse that gives him his livelihood, his Stud has run off into the wild. Now is that a bad thing or a good thing or. Right. I think it would be a bad thing. Think that's a bad thing. I mean, if we're gonna, if we're going to morally label it, it's. I think it's a bad thing at the onset. Right? Um, so his horse has gone a couple days later. He's out tilling the fields. Um, you know, getting ready, he's got to bring another study and whatever. And all of a sudden in the distance he sees two horses galloping towards him and he quickly recognizes that one of them is a stud and another one is a beautiful mare. Okay. Okay. So these two horses come back to him. Now he's got his stud back and this amazing, beautiful mare that he can now breed and produce that much more livelihood for him and his family. This is a good thing or a bad thing. Very good thing. Okay. So now our perspective on the now with more information, our perspective on the horse leaving now seems like a good thing, right? Yes. Okay. So you could see where this is going. All right. Okay. So the, he breeds the two horses. They have a beautiful foul and I'm, his son is kind of his in house, a trainer breaker and so he starts to work on this, this new horse and he's breaking it so that they can sell it for more money, more horses that are broken to be written or, or to work in the fields or whatever. It can be sold for more. So He's working on this horse and it's a wild one and it bucks him off and he breaks his leg, puts him out, he's laid up. Um, it's a bad break. Is this a, is this a good thing or a bad thing? A bad thing as what kind of parent you are?

Chad: 12:23 Great. So we would see this as a bad thing, right? We need this foal to be trained so we can sell it for more. Plus, I'm sure he was a huge help on the farm. Um, and I'll wrap this up because we can all see where this is going, but so finally I'm, the recruiter comes knocking on the door and there's a draft and he's taking all young men from 18 to 30 and he enlisted in the war, this crazy war that's going on and they need them in the field immediately. But if you're injured, um, or, or, you know, anything like that, it's going to prevent you from being recruited or enlisted into the end of the war. And his son misses that. That calling to be in the war, that draft, this is a good thing or a bad thing. And I would take it as a good thing because my child, yeah, given the circumstances, right?

Chad: 13:22 It's a son and he needs, he's running, helping his dad run the business so you can see where this is going. So we have these things that happen in our lives and these things are happening real time. They're real to us, but we create a perception of them. We perceive them as something. Until often we get more information and whether or not we take that information in and allow it to change our change, our perception, I mean that's up to us. That's that, that's how honest were willing to be with ourselves. So we, I think, you know, a lot of us can think about times in our lives where something happened to us that we perceived it as just a terrible thing or a good thing or a bad thing or you know, we add these moral moral values to these, these events in our lives only later to find out maybe a couple hours later or maybe even years later, oh, that maybe that wasn't quite as bad as I thought it was. Right. You know, if that hadn't happened, this wouldn't have happened and I wouldn't be here. I wouldn't have this person in my life. Or you know, all of those sort of things. I think all of us can kind of relate to this idea that our perceptions of current reality are not always a true reflection of the real situation. Right. Yes. I agree. Does this stuff landing you? Of course it is. Yeah. Very much. Okay, cool. Alright, cool. So pretty simple, but I needed to make sure that we landed that and that we laid that groundwork because that is the foundation for what we're going to talk about and how we're going to change some of this, right?

Eric: 15:08 If you make it tie, if you could tie it into the Mitochondria, it might help.

Chad: 15:16 I Thought about that. And I said, you know, how are we going to tie this into our main topic which is keto and um, and we did, we do talk about, you know, a lot about testing and that kind of stuff and, and macro tracking. And I actually thought this, this relates to this foundational principle pretty well because we know you and I both know a lot of people who say that they're, they're eating keto or living keto , but they don't track anything, right? Right. So they have this perception, they have their own little reality that they're, that they are following this certain diet or eating plan. But if you were in reality, if you are checking macros and you are checking a millimoles of ketones, those, those markers of reality might tell you something different. Yes. Right. So it could, it could add motivation to obviously accountability, right? Absolutely. The elder. So many benefits. There's so many benefits to being teachable and humble and honest with yourself and checking in with reality or checking in with what reality is telling you and comparing your perception of reality to that. Does that make sense?

Chad: 16:36 So that's kind of the idea. Here is what we're going to go through in the next 20 minutes is we're going to go through how do we check ourselves and check our perceptions and make sure it's as closely aligned with true reality as it possibly can be so that we can be happy so that we can be in relationship with other people and uh, and it just, life is, life is a bit better when we're closer to what is actually happening rather than our perceived reality. Um, so I love that you brought that up. I think it's, I think it is applicable. So when reality closest closely matches someone in our, when our reality closely matches someone else in our realm of influence, that's when we can truly connect with them. So when we think about this in real terms, what does that mean? Where does the rubber hit the road? What that means is we can we see this when we seek others that have similar interests, opinions or beliefs, that's just something we naturally do. But when you break it down, you think about it, what what we're really doing is we're trying to find others that share our perception of reality, right? And, and, um, and this, this can be quite a task and, and a lot of times we tend to stick only to the topics where our perception of reality a isn't aligned with each other. That's why people say, don't we don't discuss religion or politics at the table, right? Because, because it's uncomfortable for us, it's at first it seems like unsafe for us to check in on our perception and our perception of reality compared to other people's perception. When, uh, my argument is actually it's a lot more unsafe to not check in with other people's perception of reality.

Chad: 18:36 I mean, people don't like, you know, right. It's uncomfortable, we feel threatened, we feel unsafe, but really what we're doing is we're siloing ourselves and we're not allowing ourselves to be in relationship with people. Correct. So, so the more we can close that gap, right? And the closer we are to the true reality is the more people we can be in relationship with, the more happiness we can find, all of that kind of stuff. So sorry, go ahead. No, go ahead.

Eric: 19:09 So what you're saying, you know, because I've talked about this before, but there's two words that you, that I incorporated years ago and trying to change my life and it just something personal with me. Remember I said was those two words were real intent. Okay. My wife and my kids know that I'm trying to do everything at a real intent of heart or just really intent and intention. So. Okay, so it looks like where you're heading is probably where, where we're getting to is about. The reality is you're, if your intentions are true or honest or whatever is that are we're getting to, we're going to

Chad: 19:48 That's where we're going. Is, is too intent. So, um, all of this that I've talked about, we're going to put away for a minute because that was all set up. That was all foundation. So just keep that in mind that we live in our own perception a lot of times we live in our own perception and the thing that, that keeps us in our own perception of reality is our unwillingness to look at the evidence of what is around us because life is the ultimate teacher, right? Life will, life has its way of teaching you everything you need to know if you're willing to wake up, open up your eyes and be honest with yourself and willing to change. It's when we're unwilling to change and unwilling to be honest with ourselves that life doesn't really teach us anything. It just kind of knocks us around. Right? Right. Um, and I think most of us can look back at our lives and realize times when life was just knocking us around when was just really flowing and it felt like we were learning in investing and you know, all of that kind of stuff. So we're gonna Kinda talk about the difference in that right there. So what happens is most of us that aren't awake or don't understand this principle at this point is we're walking around and we make assumptions about ourselves, about other people, about the world based on our intent.

Chad: 21:14 Okay. So that's that word you brought up the intent. So intent is good intentions. I'm, Eh, I'm not going to label them good or bad but, but a lot of us, a lot of us live on our, on our, uh, yeah, a lot of us live on our good intentions and we make assumptions about the world and the people around us based on our good intention. So I was trying to help you out but you. But the evidence, if we were to be honest with, you know, if there's a situation where we're trying to help somebody out, our intentions are great, but the reality is the result is the real life tangible result is that our actions did not help at all. A lot of times we're unwilling to be honest with ourselves and say, okay, my intentions are not lining up with actual results, so something's wrong here. I need to realign myself with reality.

Eric: 22:16 Do you, do you think people judge you by your intentions or no, or that, or is that just, you know, so that's the other part.

Chad: 22:24 So, so, so we live, we live in these, um, we live in these assumptions of our intent, right? Yep. And the gap, and then there's a gap. And on the other side of the gap is how people perceive us. So people make their assumptions about us based on our impact, like behavior or whatever. Your actions impact the actual results. Okay. Gotcha. Right? So, um, so those are the two things on each side of the gap is our intent is on one side and that's our assumptions were making and then our impact and people make assumptions of pace on our impact because they can, they're outside of our heads, right? They're not running our stories, we're running our stories so they only see the actual impact that we have on other people, the world, um, all of that kind of stuff. So there's this gap. And um, oftentimes this gap is where I'm discontent lives. This is where I'm arguments live. This is where people talking past each other, live conflict, all of that kind of stuff because you have yourself on one side with your, with your intent saying, well, but my are this, if you could only see my heart, you know, that I'm a great person and that I meant good for this and they're going, but I see your impact. I, I, I'm, I'm making assumptions about your heart based on what I actually see in the real world. You do it right? And so the more my thing is, the more we can close that gap exactly. The more we can bring our intentions closer to our impact, the happier we are, the more people we, the more relationships we have, the more successful we are with.

Chad: 24:22 Um, and, and this is, this is the other place I thought this tied really nicely into keto and fitness and all that kind of stuff is that we can have really good intentions when it comes to those things. Like we can have beautiful intentions, but if our impact is not there, that gap is huge and there's a lot of discontent, right? Think about your clients, Eric, who tell you, um, you know, I feel like I'm doing everything I should be doing, but I'm just not seeing the results or I really wanted to do that today or I really wanted to do that this week, but I couldn't find the time or I couldn't. So they're unwilling. There's that big gap between their intentions and their impact

Eric: 25:09 and, and, you know, and, and, and I get that a lot because I'm always in coaching a court. I'm always looking for the impact.

Chad: 25:17 Yes, exactly. You're gonna make your assumptions about their intent based on their impact

Eric: 25:23 and that's, and that's what I'm there for is to make right and when I don't or there's failure than obviously I, I really take that upon myself like, oh my gosh, what did I do wrong? How did I miscommunicate this and I hope and I really believe my intentions. You're honest. So I think that's the first foundation is making sure your intentions are honest, but there is a gap there sometimes that it's, it's not, the impact isn't happening.

Chad: 25:53 Yes, yes. So here's the thing, and this I love you are leading me just perfectly down this path. So, um, the reason this is such a foundational conversation with my clients, and you could probably adopt a little bit of this in the beginning as well, is the reason that I am such a strong believer in having a coach or a mentor or somebody who is set in place to give you very honest feedback on your actual impact. Yes. Community. Because we have so many, we create so many blind spots for ourselves and we run so many stories inside our head that it's really difficult for us alone to identify the where our intent is not matching our impact. Yes, and that is the beautiful work of a coach or somebody and I only say coach because that's they're paid to do that. That is their role is to give you feedback on where your impact and your intent are not aligned and and and they can do those, the hard conversations and be honest with you because that's what you're paying them to do. Hopefully it's a little bit more difficult in dicey when you ask like your spouse to be this person or your best friend or your siblings and you know there's so much history and you're both running stories about each other and it's just a it's a little bit more strained situation and so my. I will always have a coach. I will always have a coach that I am, that they are hired to show me where my intent and my impact are not aligned and so that I can continue to close that gap because I realized for myself the, the, the more I can close that gap, the more life just seems to flow. It seems like things are happening for me. I'm a, my relationships are in a good spot. I'm actually creating the change in myself and in the world that I want to change because my impact is really, really close to my intent and it's that feedback that allows us to do that, that honest and real feedback.

Eric: 28:23 I kind of have a quick example if you don't mind me saying. Yeah, of course a lot about. Uh, obviously I, I got divorced. I have five kids. Uh, they were, they were out of the house going to school, college and married. I remarried and my wife now Lisa, who had four little kids of her own. And so I went straight from, you know, 50 something years old. Next thing I know I'm, I'm remarried and have four little kids in the house. That's what I thought. I had all good intentions, but I raised kids. I went through, you know, kids, you know, have an issues in high school. They're driving the discipline, the chores and all that kind of stuff and so here I was trying to implement in my intentions onto her basically on how to raise her kid. Okay, how to discipline them, how to get them through this, how you know everything. And it got to the point, Chad, that I thought my intentions were good and I thought like the impact I was having on her while she was listening to me, she was saying yes, yes, yes. But it almost ended up in marriage failing because she finally gave me feedback and said, if you keep up telling me how to raise my kids, I'm done. I'm out. And she's a terrible mother. She didn't know how to discipline our kids, how to raise your kids, how to use her head. That's what she was getting. I guess that's what you call the impact. That's the impact he was getting from me and I never got the feedback because she, she just felt like, okay, I just, I'll agree with them on everything. Then the more she didn't do it, the more I thought, well, okay, let's keep teaching. Let's keep it. And then she finally told me, because I don't even know if your intentions were really all good. Maybe you'd superior, maybe you wanted to tell me how smart you were. So anyway, it almost ended our marriage until I learned one day she just said Zip it just. And that's what happened. I finally just couldn't. I just stayed out of it completely from there on. But, but yeah, I was actually hurting her, but I didn't think she was taking it that way at all.

Chad: 30:41 Right. And here's the thing, and this is another skill that my clients that I work really intently on with my clients and it's a skill that I pro, I, I continue to practice. I'm still not fantastic at it. And especially in our, in the American culture, we are terrible at giving good, honest feedback. We are terrible at. And, uh, I don't know, I haven't looked, I haven't dug into that as why specifically Americans are a little bit more like dance around the subject. We know, hint, we try to keep it pleasant. And where were other places, I mean, um, and, and we get a little bit of the, unlike the east coast in New York or whatever, where people just, it's not a big deal, but they'll give you the feedback that, you know, hey, this is where you're screwing up a, this is what I see you doing it, get, get better. And uh, I really too sensitive or western or our western Westerner, um, uh, ethics or, or, um, pleasantries gets in a way often of our giving. People are knowing how to peak, give people feedback. I'm also, the circumstance needs to be correct, right? They need to be asking for feedback. And that's another thing we don't know how to ask for feedback otherwise it doesn't land in, in the way that it is most beneficial. Um, and so, uh, and, and, and, and that's one of my points is that all of this can be practiced but it requires honesty, humility and acceptance.

Eric: 32:24 Mm. So you can actually ask some men to get feedback. You can actually, if you're really honest about your intentions and it was taken wrong or you know, the impact was, was not, you know, what you thought and they didn't perceive it, what you were saying, maybe they took it wrong. So it's something worth asking that person, you know, the question, you know, you know, how, how can I clean this up or, or what just happened or you know, how did you perceive this? I mean, obviously you can tell it, but if it's taken negative, there's something you can start to communication with.

Chad: 32:58 Correct. I mean that's what I would, I would, if, if people will live, will learn this one skill. I think 80 percent and that's a completely made up statistic, but I believe 80 percent of their conflicts will go away. If you can learn to ask the people around you for feedback in a constructive way, it is more than half the battle is over. It's a beautiful thing to be able to say, I noticed that I didn't have that. My actions didn't have the impact on you or the situation that I hoped they would. Do you have any feedback for me? Could you tell me why you think maybe that impact did not was not there? Do you think some of that could be? All of a sudden we're into a conversation. What's that? Sorry?

Eric: 33:56 Yeah. You think a lot of us think we don't do that because we think we're always right.

Chad: 34:01 Yes. Yes. It's pride. It's fear. There's a lot of fear, right? We don't want to look like we don't know what we're doing in front of people and it's very interesting. I mean, I try to practice this even in my coaching where something I'm working through with them is just not landing. It's just not having the impact that I hoped it would or thought it would and I can. I. We've set the boundaries as such and, and we've set up our relationship as such, where I can say, man, I'm noticing that this, this just doesn't seem to be landing and the way that I hoped it would, or the way that I intended it would. Can you help me understand what's going on for you in this? Yeah.

Eric: 34:42 Because I remember with my wife, I would say the things that I was saying, but it didn't look like she said it was landing. So I would repeat myself.

Chad: 34:54 Maybe you didn't hear me. It didn't quite come through. So let's try it again.

Eric: 35:04 I learned from that. I actually did learn a big lesson from that.

Chad: 35:10 So there's, um, there's a place we can play with this a little bit and this is something that I always try to get my clients to do is I, before you go in guns a blazing on the hot topics right before you really take on the big stuff that's really been eating at you because I'm sure as if, if people are still listening to this, they've already started to come up with some thoughts in their mind of places that they're experiencing this. Okay. And I hope that's the whole point of us talking about this kind of stuff. Um, but, but don't start there. Don't start on the big ones. My suggestion, my suggestion is to get some, to get some experience under your wings and to get some time in the saddle with this is to think of some places where you're procrastinating. Something like it can be something real simple. Like I've been meaning to do this thing for a week and I just haven't. Like obviously the thing is just not done right. So you can quickly see that, okay, the gap and a lot of times the things that we procrastinate, we carry them with us even though we don't know we're carrying them with us, even if it's just like a messy room or something. Um, we still carry that with us and it's an added stress on our shoulders, on our mind, as, as we interact with people as we go to work, as we drive. That's why we're also pissed off all the time. It's because we've got these things that are undone and, uh, and if we can learn to, to, to tie them up and, and get them off our mind because procrastination sits on our mind, finished leaves our mind. So you think about these times, where are these? Think about something where you're procrastinating. I'm just going to say I'm a messy room or, or a messy storage room or something like that. It's real simple. The stakes aren't high. Um, nobody's, nobody's gonna jump down your throat, nobody's gonna, whatever. But you can see that your intentions and your impact are a giant gap apart because you, you've intended and your intentions are great to clean and organize this room. But the impact, the reality, the feedback is the messy room, right? So there's that gap and that gap is where that discontent lives that you carry with you every single day. So you can experiment with this on some things that you've been procrastinating. Just make your impact, match your intent with that one thing and see what happens.

Eric: 37:49 So basically you're saying is a good intentions will really get you nowhere until you make, make an impact. I've heard people say, well, I have good intentions. I've come my wife that. Well, I really was going to clear up my desk and all these tables. I really, I really was. Well, okay, I plan to

Chad: 38:11 reality is a reality is giving you a different feedback. So what intentions does is it gives us perceived safety. It gives us perceived accomplishment. Um, it's not real accomplishment. We haven't done anything. We've just made ourselves. We've have self soothed is what we have medical hub, arrogant, thinking that in some way a little bit maybe, I'm sure. Yeah, absolutely. Ego Ego can play a large part in this. Um, but really everybody knows every single person does it. So even, even if you're not a real egotistical person, there's still things that you're, your intent is not matching your impact. Um, and so, uh, you know, this, these small items of procrastination is a great place to get some practice in and then once you have some practice and you really feel like you've gotten into a place where you can be honest with yourself, then you can start asking people for feedback. And, um, we've, I've kind of made it a pattern at this point to offer some homework to our listeners and the feedback on the homework has been good for the most part. I think people are actually doing it. So that's cool. Um, but uh, here's, here's my homework for this, for this part. So find something, something in your life that is not aligned where your intent and your impact are, are miles apart, not something high stakes, right? Not something that you've still got a lot of emotion in, but maybe something that, um, is just you would love to change or you would love the impact to be different, but it's not super high. Status is good now. Find four people in your life not very close to you, so not spouses, not siblings, not children, but four people who are in your life that you respect their honesty. So write down the four people, okay? And then ask those four people for feedback with this one thing, the super low stakes thing. I know and I'm going to get it. Okay? Hey, tell him I want honest feedback about this and you can even tell him I'm experimenting with this. I'm trying to get better at taking feedback. I'm trying to make my impact match my intent. Can you help me with this? And then there'll be a lot more willing to jump into it with you if they see that it's, it's something you're playing around with rather than something that's super high stakes and they're going to piss you off or hurt the relationship or something like that. So that's my homework with you four people, something low stakes and get feedback from them and just notice the most important part of this exercise is noticing your reaction to the feedback, the feedback really, I mean it can be helpful. It obviously can help you bring your impact closer to your intent, but the most important part, because we're, we're in, we're in it for the longterm game, we're in it for the long haul. We want to be able to take feedback and healthy way the rest of our lives. So how you react and if it's healthy or unhealthy or moves you closer to your goal or further away from your goal is the most important thing to notice. Yes, I agree. Okay, cool. Any questions or anything else that you feel like we should cover?

Eric: 41:53 I think this is awesome because I remember as a kid I was always. My mom would always tell me that people are gonna judge you by your behavior, you know, not, not by what you tell them you're going to do or what they think you're going to do, actions or behavior. She always used the worst day here, so it was, you know, I was always thinking that I want to do this and do this night, do this, do this, do this, but a lot of times I never, I never followed through. So it was just full of good intentions, you know?

Chad: 42:25 That's right. That's right. But, but the thing that is helpful, and we talked a little bit about language a couple of weeks ago and how powerful languages. It's so don't you think it's so powerful to be able to put some language to this stuff? Yeah. Because now you can almost map it out on a piece of paper and it makes more sense rather than just us just being in our head saying why is my impact not matching my intent? And, and now we can map it out. We have a skillset, um, and we have a resolution and we know where we're going with it and we can practice it the rest of our lives. Yeah, I think this great. Awesome. Awesome. Well, thanks for mind hacking with us today, Eric. That's my new one on these episodes. I'm going to say mind hacking,

Eric: 43:11 uh, I think it's great. I really do. And I think a lot of people, I mean, we all, we all need not just biohacking but mind hacking, true belief and these actions, just remembering you can change all your DNA expressions this way. You're genetically can be changed. So just throw that science because

Chad: 43:32 absolutely. I mean, there's lots of, I can't, I don't have anything to reference right now, but these kind of behavioral stuff and being healthy in the mind affects the brain physically.

Eric: 43:45 Belief affects the brain. That's the neatest part about it. You know, it affects neurotransmission, affects hormones being released. Belief in this, this concept here is, is, is all workable. I mean, it's, it's, it's amazing what the brain can do for you. It really, really, absolutely genetics and DNA, but it, no belief is, is key on everything. So cool.

Chad: 44:12 Well, great. Uh, and I want to thank everybody else for joining us on this quest for optimal fitness and mind in this mindfulness. If you're ready to begin your own journey and live your life and Ketosis, pretty sure to check out biofitcoaching.com or biofit coaching on instagram that handles @biofit_coaching. And if this podcast has helped you anyway, entertained you, encourage you to go wherever you get your podcast, leave us a five star rating and a glowing reviews so that we can reach more people and, uh, and really grow this community more than, more than we already have. So we can reach as many lives as possible. And finally, the greatest compliment that you can give us is sharing this podcast with your friends or family, those who want a different way of living. And until next time, stay keto .